Change Your Mind Pt1

Change Your Mind Pt 1
Every woman regardless of how she looks has a body image issue in some way. Society's idea of beauty and standards of weight has given us a sense of inadequacy, and insecurity within ourselves. Many women believe that she has to be a beauty queen, or have a flawless body to live a fulfilling life or find a mate. NOT TURE!
Have you ever gone to the mall, or just simply walked down the street and observed the appearance of the women who have men? Don’t get me wrong, all of them are not unattractive. Maybe five percent of those women are magazine cover material. A majority of women who are in relationships, are average looking, slightly heavier, or much heavier than society's standards, and have imperfect bodies.
If a man rejects you because of your looks, or weight, it is not necessarily because he doesn’t like you or doesn’t find you attractive. His decision is based on society's standards of beauty, or what his peers and family may think of him dating someone who is "below standard". So don’t worry ladies, it’s not you!
How fulfilling can a relationship be if it is based on looks alone? For a man to choose a woman based only on superficial beauty is not only shallow but also pig headed. Hence, he does this for status purposes, to boost his self worth, and reputation.
Often women are so preoccupied about being chosen that they put themselves in a dangerous position. Waiting to be chosen gives the man the advantage in which the woman maintains the "lower hand" in the relationship. This causes the woman to become very vulnerable because she is placing all of the power into his hands which can result in low self esteem, and a broken heart.
Ladies what you need to do is change your mind set. This is not an easy task by far because your mind is already set in its mode. The first step is to unhype yourself. When you want to form a relationship, exclude all of the negative thoughts, and expectations that come from society that you have to look like a beauty queen. The more you accept the stigma that society has bestowed upon you; you will have a harder time finding a mate.
The Process
This is the starting process of changing the mindset. Go into a room, cut off the TV or radio. Turn off your cell phone. Stand in front of a full length mirror, undress, if you're really comfortable get naked. Close your eyes breathe deeply and say out loud:
1) I am a uniquely beautiful woman.
2) I like my body and my looks
3) I am sexy and sensual
4) I am a wonderful person, and the right man will be lucky to have me.
5) I radiate attractiveness
6) Someone has to be a quality person to interest me
7) I’m sure that sooner or later, I will enter into a relationship with someone who's right for me.
You have to repeat the process continuously in order for you to process this new information into your mind. Once the positivity takes effect, you'll be on your way to a happier you.